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Joined: Jun 2010 Posts: 58 | John lost his fight with OC on September 7, 2011, 1:45am with me by his side.
It is still surreal. I am bolstered by alot of loving family and friends, and I appreciate all of you, too, on this forum with your kind words. I am glad he is no longer suffering and in pain, and is in a better place where we will be reunited someday when my time comes.
Keep fighting, all of you. Spread the awareness about OC. Do not let our loved ones' battles with this horrible disease be in vain.
Peace, Bonnie
Bonnie
CG to husb John, 57, love of my life for 35 yrs.
Dx 2/10, T2N2cMx, SCC BOT & lymph nodes.
Non smoker. Biopsy HPV+.
No surgery - IMRT 35X + 7 chemos cleared BOT
9/10-mets to lungs.
2 rounds chemo, last one trial drug which did not work.
Lost the battle, but walking in Glory 9/7/11.
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 10,507 Likes: 7 | Bonnie, I am very sorry for your loss. I hope you can remember the happier times and let it ease your pain in this time of loss.
ChristineSCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44 2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07 -65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr Clear PET 1/08 4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I surg 4/16/08 clr marg 215 HBO dives 3/09 teeth out, trismus 7/2/09 recur, Stg IV 8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy 3wks medicly inducd coma 2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit PICC line IV antibx 8 mo 10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg OC 3x in 3 years very happy to be alive  | | | | | Joined: May 2008 Posts: 551 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts)
Joined: May 2008 Posts: 551 | Bonnie,
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I am so very sorry for your loss.
- Margaret
Stage IV SCC lt lateral tongue, surgery 5/19/08 (partial gloss/upper neck dissection left side/radial free flap reconstruction) IMRT w/weekly Cisplatin & Erbitux 6/30/08, PEG 1 6/12/08 - out 7/14 (in abdominal wall, not stomach), PEG 2 7/23/08 - out 11/20/08, Tx done 8/18/08
Second SCC tumor, Stage 1, rt mobile tongue, removed 10/18/2016, right neck dissection 12/9/2016
Third SCC tumor, diagnosed, 4/19/2108, rt submandibular mass, HPV-, IMRT w/ weekly Cisplatin, 5/9 - 6/25/2018, PEG 3 5/31/2018
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Joined: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,844 | Bonnie.
My heart is with you my dear. Life is a journey with both a beginning and an end for us. It is the memories we build with those we love that make the journey so sweet, yet so hard when it ends.
As a man that believed I'd reached my end I can't tell you the feelings I have towards my wife for standing with me and holding my hand. I believe John is at peace now, out of pain, free of the struggle. I pray peace be with John and with you, youve been his angel on earth now he is yours in spirit. You are in my heart today.
Eric
Young Frack, SCC T4N2M0, Cisplatin,35+ rads,ND, RT Mandiblectomy w fibular free flap, facial paralysis, "He who has a "why" to live can bear with almost any "how"." -Nietzche "WARNING" PG-13 due to Sarcasm & WAY too much attitude, interact at your own risk.
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Joined: Sep 2009 Posts: 701 Likes: 1 | Bonnie,
I, too, am so very sorry that you lost your beloved John. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Anita
Anita (68)
CG to husband, Clark, 79,
DX SCC 11/07, T4N0Mx, PEG 1/08, RAD, post rad infection 3/08,
HBOT 40 dives, ORN, Surg 11/09 mandibulectomy w/fibular graft.
Plastic Surg 4/10, 12/10, 3/11, 10/11, 4/12, 10/12. All PETS clear,
PEG out 1/11. 6/11 non union jaw fracture
Fractured jaw w/surgery 7/14
Aspiration pneumonia 7/21, 10/22
PEG 7/21
Botox injections
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Joined: Aug 2007 Posts: 1,301 | I am so sorry that John lost his fight Bonnie,
You are right to be comforted by the thought he is no longer in pain, in a better place and one day you will be together again.
Love to you during this very sad time.
Gabriele
History Leukoplakia bx 8/2006 SCC floor mouth T3N0M0- Verrucous Carcinoma.
14 hour 0p SCC-Right ND/excision/marginal mandibulectomy 9/2006, 4 teeth removed, flap from wrist, trach-ng 6 days- no chemo/rad.
6 ops and debulking (flap/tongue join) + bx's 2006-2012.
bx Jan 2012 Hyperkeratosis-Epithelial Dysplasia
24cm GIST tumour removed 8/2013. Indefinite Oral Chemo.
1/31/16 passed away peacefully surrounded by family
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Joined: Apr 2011 Posts: 267 | Bonnie,
My heart hurts for you. I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing you love and comfort in the days ahead.
Tracy - 33 at diagnosis
SCC right ventral tongue Dx 4/11.
T1N2M0
1st resection 5/11.
Bilateral neck dissection: 2 pos nodes
2nd resection w/graft 6/11.
Erbitux x 11 completed 9/11. IMRT x 30 completed 8/11.
3 month MRI and PET/CT all clear.
6, 9, 12 and 24 month post treatment MRIs all clear.
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Joined: Jan 2011 Posts: 571 | Dear Bonnie,
My heart is with you as you grieve. If there was ever a reason for me to be here, it would be to do exactly what you have asked. I share what I have learned about oral cancer with family, friends, and acquaintances in the hope of sparing them and the people they love from this awful disease.
May it bring you comfort that you were a wonderful, attentive and loving caregiver. John was blessed to have you at his side.
Love,
Sandy
xoxoxox
Last edited by Sandy177; 09-11-2011 07:57 PM.
Ex-spouse MISDIAGNOSED with SCC-HN IVa 12/10. Tonsils out 1/11. 4 teeth out 2/11. TX Erbitux x2, IMRT x2 2/11. 2nd opinion-benign BCC-NOT CANCER 3/11. TX stopped 3/11. New doctors 4/11. ENT agrees with 2nd opinion 5/11. ENT scoped him-all clear 7/11. Ordered MRI anyway. MRI 8/22/11 Result-all clear.
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Joined: Feb 2010 Posts: 79 | I am so sorry for your loss! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family!
Cathi
57 when diagnosed. Heavy smoker. Social drinker. Diagnosed 7/9/09 with tonsil, tongue & neck cancer. Chemo induction (Cisplatin, 5FU & Taxotere) & 35 radiation tx + 7 Carboplatin.
Head and neck CAT scan on 1/15/10 shows no cancer.
1/27/12 First PET/CAT scans in 2 years - All clear!!
recurrence mid-2015
OCF supporter and avid OCF CO and NJ walk attendee with worldwide friends
*** 1-7-16 passed away unexpectedly ***
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Joined: Jul 2011 Posts: 131 | Words won't say it. He is safely in the hands of God now with no pain and a future so bright its unlike anything we can imagine. I know this life is not the end. We carry on into the love of Gods world even after we leave this earth.
My love is with you.
Dx: 3/11 Stage III glottic laryngeal SCC HPV 16+ Tx Start: 7/18/11 chemoradiation 7wks - Tomotherapy IMRT x 34 / Cisplatin x 7 Tx End:9/1/11]-[as of 1/20/12 - ALL CLEAR!]
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