| Joined: Feb 2010 Posts: 235 Gold Member (200+ posts) | OP Gold Member (200+ posts) Joined: Feb 2010 Posts: 235 | Charm,I wasn't sure what the PEG wars were about(that sounds funny,doesn't it? I picture little PEGS lined up like a game of Stratego).
Your post makes lots of sense though. While any caregiver will know just how deeply we too are affected,I also realize that Dave is experiencing anything I am in terms of family,lifestyle changes,etc AND he is experiencing a million changes in his body. I used to say to him "how's your mouth",then it was "how's your energy", then it was how's your mouth, your energy, your throat." As the list grew we just shorthanded it to how's your "various ailments."
He is amazing with this. Really. And I figure my job is to support his best way of making it through. That said, my amazing guy is a stubborn guy so I also want to make sure he's making healthy choices.
What I'm realizing from this post though is things are coming his way but who knows what or how he will handle it. The important part is that it subsides and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel!!!
Any tips for not using the PEG???
Last edited by SusanW; 04-24-2010 01:16 PM.
CG to Spouse BOT, Chemo and radiation started on March 29,2010 Ended on May 14,2010. LET THE HEALING BEGIN!!!
| | | | Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 246 Likes: 1 Gold Member (200+ posts) | Gold Member (200+ posts) Joined: Oct 2008 Posts: 246 Likes: 1 | If someone already has a PEG in place, there are several reasons to start using it while still able to eat.
- able to start with small amounts of formula, allowing the GI system to adjust gradually. - trying out several different formulas, if necessary. Sometimes one is tolerated better than another. Often the RO office will give you one or two samples to try. - allows adjustment time to actual mechanics of doing the feedings.
Having this all figured out before the patient is completely tube dependent (if that happens) is the advantage. Lottie
CG to husband, dx @ age 65, nonsmoker/social drinker. Dx 5/08 SCC Stage IV, BOT T1N2aM0. 33 IMRT - completed 9/12/08. Induction Chemo (Cisplatin, Taxotere & 5FU), plus concurrent Cisplatin. 1/09 PEG removed; 5/09 neg PET/CT; 5/10 PET/CT NED Dental extraction & HBOT 2013; ORN 2014; Debridement/Tissue Transfer & HBOT 2016
| | | | Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 3,082 Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 3,082 | Susan
My wife just verified how worried she was the whole time I refused to get a PEG the first go round, especially when I would vomit up the Ensure Plus I had painstakingly forced down. Still she knew how important it was to me to maintain the feeling of active resistance to this cancer so supported me. She knew when she married me just how stubborn I am and it sounds like Dave may have a similar streak. Again, while there is certainly no shame in getting a PEG if it gets too much for Dave, I was exuberant that I got thru 40 rounds of radiation and eight chemos without one. For me the trick was to sip Seltzer water and then spit it out with the mucous between each and every swallow of Ensure Plus Sounds worse than it was. Again, this elective decision is highly personal but I was always that guy in the 10K race who started to sprint at the 5 mile mark when others were slowing down, or started to pick up the pace at Mile 25 of the Marathon. Amazingly I would end up passing literally dozens of people at the 10K and hundreds at the Marathons because they did not think the extra pain and effort were worth it at that point. It was that way with the PEG for me - I knew if I just hung tough and kept on I could finish the TX without it even while the rest of my group in the waiting room faltered. As for healthy choices, even with the second round of radiation and chemo less than a year ago, I just finished spreading out one thousand four hundred pounds of while marble chips to make a little patio for our fire pit (with lifting each 50lb bag twice, that's over a ton). Dave is lucky to have a caregiver who can understand that sometimes a man's got to do what a man's got to do. Charm 65 yr Old Frack Stage IV BOT T3N2M0 HPV 16+ 2007:72GY IMRT(40) 8 ERBITUX No PEG 2008:CANCER BACK Salvage Surgery 25GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin Apaghia /G button 2012: CANCER BACK -left tonsilar fossa 40GY-CyberKnife(5) 3 Carboplatin Passed away 4-29-13
| | | | Joined: Jul 2008 Posts: 507 "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) | "Above & Beyond" Member (500+ posts) Joined: Jul 2008 Posts: 507 | The objective is to: "...hold a good weight, keep your energy up, maintain your muscle mass, good nutrition and hydration"... Otherwise you need a feeding tube".
"At MDA a feeding tube can be placed at anytime during treatment... and should not be your only source of eating and drinking".
(Source: Denise Anderson, Sr Clinical Dietitian , Clinical Nutrition. University of Texas, M.D. Anderson Cancer Center)
I know at the 'bitter end', even with a PEG, the nausea made it hard for me to keep enough down.
Don TXN2bM0 Stage IVa SCC-Occult Primary FNA 6/6/08-SCC in node<2cm PET/CT 6/19/08-SCC in 2nd node<1cm HiRes CT 6/21/08 Exploratory,Tonsillectomy(benign),Right SND 6/23/08 PEG 7/3/08-11/6/08 35 TomoTherapy 7/16/08-9/04/08 No Chemo Clear PET/CT 11/15/08, 5/15/09, 5/28/10, 7/8/11
| | | | Joined: Feb 2010 Posts: 235 Gold Member (200+ posts) | OP Gold Member (200+ posts) Joined: Feb 2010 Posts: 235 | You're right.Keeping the goal in mind is what's important. He does have the PEG in. Sloan advocated putting it in before you felt crappy. They made it clear it was a choice but a highly recommended one. That said, they constantly speak of the importance of swallowing and are thrilled that he's not using it.
Charm, your wife sounds awesome. As I'm sure you know being happily married for many years has it's perks(to say the least). One of them is knowing what battles you can and can't win. So,I know to let Dave take the lead on this(cause a man does indeed need to do...) UNLESS I see his health sliding(then the man's gotta do what his wife needs him to do...LOL).
In addition to the mouth and throat pain, did people have issues with the mucous creating eating problems? That is getting quite nasty(or as Dave puts it"frothier than anyone would want..."). I remember reading about it and suggested drinking seltzer(that stuck in my mind from a thread). But when I searched for it I didn't see tips to help with it.
I know from speaking to Wanda that it can be a real problem in terms of stomach upset.
CG to Spouse BOT, Chemo and radiation started on March 29,2010 Ended on May 14,2010. LET THE HEALING BEGIN!!!
| | | | Joined: Feb 2010 Posts: 235 Gold Member (200+ posts) | OP Gold Member (200+ posts) Joined: Feb 2010 Posts: 235 | Wow. Did I just hit the mother lode. Went back and searched some more and hit 200 possibilities.
It really is a baffling to me that every hospital doesn't have info posted about this site. And that more support groups aren't offered.
I feel that once we got to Sloan(after hearing things from DR doom and gloom) we were kept very well informed. But the additional ability to seek practical and emotional support is invaluable.
CG to Spouse BOT, Chemo and radiation started on March 29,2010 Ended on May 14,2010. LET THE HEALING BEGIN!!!
| | | | Joined: Mar 2009 Posts: 147 Senior Member (100+ posts) | Senior Member (100+ posts) Joined: Mar 2009 Posts: 147 | I had so much mucos that I could take a handful out of my mouth with one swipe. I just could not bear the thought of swallowing anything and did not. I didn't even swallow water for 4 weeeks. I did not loose my ability to swallow luckily. We are all different. I am very stuborn but when it was necessary I had no problem "crying uncle" and using the peg.....gladly.
DX 2/10/09; Stage 1 SCC side of tongue; Partial Gloss; PEG in 3/3/09; 3 Cisplatin; 35 IMRT; PEG out 7/17/09; Eating via mouth and walking 3 miles/day 4 wks after treatment end. 50 pound weight loss; Clear PET 09/09 and 09/10 | | | | Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 4,912 Likes: 53 OCF Founder Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) | OCF Founder Patient Advocate (old timer, 2000 posts) Joined: Mar 2002 Posts: 4,912 Likes: 53 | susanW, thank you for the kind words about what those that come to this site have to offer others. We just picked up a new person in the office, Jamie, who spends 2/3'rd of her day each day doing outreach to treatment facilities. It isn't an easy job to get through to someone at the hospitals. Our best success has been in getting staff in the social services department to want to have our literature there. Getting it into the hands of the nurses in the radiation treatment areas and in the chemo areas is harder. We actually have two cards, one of them tells about the OCF web site and the information, and the other is a direct set of instructions on how to navigate via the web right to this board. They are just as big as a postcard. Getting those cards at the radiation check in desk racks, and elsewhere in the hospitals is difficult, not because they don't ant them, but because they are swamped with dealing with the daily workload, and too busy to take the time to talk to us about what we can help them with. Of course separating them from an email address or other means of contacting them is even harder. But we do make progress. Anyone on these boards that is going back for treatments or recall visits that would like to hand carry a few cards for these places with them, please contact [email protected] or call her at the OCF office (949) 273-4400, and she will see that you get some to take with you on your next visit. Your help would be greatly appreciated.
Brian, stage 4 oral cancer survivor. OCF Founder and Director. The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant. | | | | Joined: Feb 2010 Posts: 235 Gold Member (200+ posts) | OP Gold Member (200+ posts) Joined: Feb 2010 Posts: 235 | Brian, no problem. Happy to help. I'm not sure how other centers do it but Sloan requires that everyone speaks to a therapist at their facility at least once. Of course,as a therapist I was thrilled to hear that. My husband probably won't want to talk to her.Have I mentioned he can be stubborn(and in his defense he hears therapy talk more than he wants I'm sure). And emotionally he is really hanging in there. But I'm looking forward to meeting her.My thought was to talk to her about OCF.
You guys are probably way ahead of me on this but I would strongly recommend any center that has therapy services be on the top of your contact list. We spend a lot of time finding resources like this for our patients.
ONLY TWO AND A HALF WEEKS TO GO!!!
CG to Spouse BOT, Chemo and radiation started on March 29,2010 Ended on May 14,2010. LET THE HEALING BEGIN!!!
| | | | Joined: Jun 2010 Posts: 18 Member | Member Joined: Jun 2010 Posts: 18 | I have a question to throw out here...were any of you having problems with swallowing PRIOR to your diagnosis? My father was diagnosed in May,started treatment 6/28/10 and had his PEG placed last week because his weight loss was already significant. He has had no surgery. (The Dr. feels it would do more damage than good and will use it as a last resource.) Dad had his 2nd dose of chemo this morning ( Erbitux) and is starting his 2nd week of radiation as well. What I am wondering is will it be the radiation that makes it worse? Because the tumor has already made it bad enough!?! Susan
Primary caregiver to 78 yr.old father w/Oral Cancer SCC Tumor found May 2010 Left side back of tongue & up into ear canal opening Biopsy June 3rd 2010 Diagnosed May 2010 No Surgical Removal (As Yet) Tx 7 weeks (35 Days) of Radiation & Erbitux infusion 7 weeks to run concurrent w/the radiation
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