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Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 706 | Today marks 1 year since Neil passed from this horrible disease. Even though this is a tough day for me I am thankful for the wonderful people I have met from this site. I feel like this is one good thing that has come from this tragedy. Best wishes to all who continue to fight and the caregivers that stand beside them.
cg to husband, 48 Stage 1V head and neck SCC. First surgery 9/07. Radiation and several rounds of chemo followed. Mets to chest and lungs. "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain." Went home to God on February 22, 2009.
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Joined: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,940 | Time marches on for those left behind,although its hard to understand how that happens when our other half is missing.My thoughts will be with you on this hardest of days
love liz
Liz in the UK
Husband Robin aged 44 years Dx 8th Dec 2006 poorly differentiated SCC tongue with met to neck T1N2cM0 Surgery and Radiation.Finished TX April 2007
Recurrence June/07 died July 29th/07.
Never take your eye off the ball, it may just smack you in the mouth.
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Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,357 Likes: 5 | Agreed - thoughts are with you today. I suspect the date brings everything back full force, and we all wish there was something we could do to ease your pain.
I hope you know what an invaluable resource you have been to caregivers AND patients. You have made a huge difference in many lives by sharing what you have gone through and your support of all afflicted. Your love and care is a tribute to both Neil and you as you help with disease management.
Donna
Donna,69, SCC L Tongue T2N1MO Stg IV 4/04 w/partial gloss;32 radtx; T2N2M0 Stg IV; R tongue-2nd partial gloss w/graft 10/07; 30 radtx/2 cispl 2/08. 3rd Oral Cancer surgery 1/22 - Stage 1. 2022 surgery eliminated swallowing and bottom left jaw. Now a “Tubie for Life”.no food envy - Thank God! Surviving isn't easy!!!! .Proudly Canadian - YES, UNIVERSAL HEALTH CARE IS WONDERFUL! (Not perfect but definitely WONDERFUL)
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Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 104 | I have been thinking of you lately knowing the anniversary of Neil's passing was close at hand. It is a difficult day to get through for sure. Personally I have found the second year a little easier, though I still think of my hubby every day, it seems the memories are now more of the happy times we shared.
Having 5 new grandchildren this past year certainly has helped too.
You are a strong lady and I know you will make the most of every days blessings.
Caregiver to husband Dx. Stage 4 SCC of gingiva with 3 nodes pos. Partial mandiblectomy with bone graft from iliac crest Dec. 2006. IMRT x30, Cisplatin x3. Completed Tx. March 15, 2007. Osteonecrosis & removal of graft & plate Oct. 2007. Recurrence of SCC Dec. 2007. Deceased Jan. 17, 2008.
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Joined: Jun 2009 Posts: 440 | I'll be thinking of you Sue during this day. ((HUGS))
Dx 3/27/09 @ 28 years old with High Grade MEC T4N2M0
Elizabeth, 33, mother of 3 girls (4,7, &8yrs old)
3 rds of chemo(Carbo/Taxol)
Rt Mandibulectomy, rt fibular flap,& rt ND with trach, picc,& g-tube.
30 rds of rads with weekly cisplatin
SCANS ALL CLEAR!
OCF Regional Coordinator of San Antonio Walk
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Joined: May 2008 Posts: 357 | Thinking of you on this day.
Marlene
Marginal mandibulectomy 6/17/08 resulted in DX of Stage I SCC - gingiva (3 mm) right mandible, buccal side. Clear margins. Occasional social drinker. Smoked last cigarette in 1979. Clear pet: 12/08; 7/20/09. Yay!
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Joined: Aug 2008 Posts: 113 | Sue. I have been thinking strongly of you this past week and especially today. It's been 7 months since my Jim passed away. There were a lot of similarities in both our husbands treatments and progression. We've traveled the journey with them and now we travel it with God walking with us. . He is my only strength that gets me through the day. Yes, we have met lots of wonderful people here on the board. I really haven't posted since Jim passed away, but I do at times pay a visit here and my heart breaks when I read the postings and I get all these flash-backs but I am hopeful and delighted when I see "clear margins" etc. There is hope--never give up. I wrap my arms around everyone who suffers with this disease and the caregivers who give their "all" hoping for miracles and doing everything possible to bring comfort and care to our loved ones. God Bless you all.
Husband 2/3 tongue removed March 2008. Free flap. . Stage IV. Radiation and 3 chemo's (cisplatin,taxol & erbitux). .Pet scan Aug 08 showed mets to lungs .Oct 08, recurrence. - In the arms of Jesus, July 15, 2009
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Joined: Jun 2008 Posts: 475 | Sue, my thoughts are with you. I was so lucky to have met Neil and you. As you mentioned, thru this forum I have met so many wonderful people as well.
To everyone who lost someone, it does get easier but the thoughts of our loved ones are never gone. It is what gets me thru my day and also my work for OCF. Planning these events for OCF is my tribute to my brother to hopefully save a life.
Susan Lauria - OCF Director of Events - Always looking for volunteers to help spread the word about early detection! Contact me if you can help!
*Brother passed away from tongue cancer in 2006 at age 47, was co-caregiver, he was non-smoker/casual drinker
LETS MAKE ORAL CANCER HISTORY!
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Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 756 Likes: 1 | Sue,
Thinking of you today. I want to thank you for all the support you have given me and everyone else.
Susan
SCC R-Lateral tongue, T1N0M0
Age 47 at Dx, non-smoker, casual drinker, HPV-
Surgery: June 2005
RT: Feb-Apr 2006
HBOT: 45 in 2008; 30 in 2013; 30 in 2022 -> Total 105!
Recurrence/Surgeries: Jan & Apr 2010
Biopsy 2/2011: Moderate dysplasia
Surgery 4/2011: Mild dysplasia
Dental issues: 2013-2022 (ORN)
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Joined: Jun 2007 Posts: 5,260 | Sue, as time marches on, we seem to remember some of the fun times together and begin to smile at the memories. The fun times, the sad times and all in between times. They are still a part of our lives.
Since posting this. UPMC, Pittsburgh, Oct 2011 until Jan. I averaged about 2 to 3 surgeries a week there. w Can't have jaw made as bone is deteroriating steaily that is left in jaw. Mersa is to blame. Feeding tube . Had trach for 4mos. Got it out April.
--- Passed away 5/14/14, will be greatly missed by everyone here
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