We're new here. My husband (68, non-smoker, non-drinker) was diagnosed with tonsil cancer after neck dissection after Christmas. Stage IV. 10 of 21 lymph nodes diseased. We are blessed with a CCC at UAB in B'ham, AL. Got his PEG last week. We will begin treatment - cisplatin and radiation tomorrow. We are shaking, to say the least. Please, if you have any first-day advice, send it our way. Thank you in advance, and also for this most helpful site.

Jim and Deb - I'm new here too. My husband was diagnosed Jan 8, 2010, didn't realize it but it's the one month mark (not gonna call it an anniversary) today. We're kind of doing things a little backward from you all. We started chemo first - planning on 4 rounds, round 2 is this Wed. Thur. and Fri. then rads X 35 followed by surgery (if needed). I'm sure you've poured over the pages as I did and continue to do - keep reading. Keep a journal. Write everything down that the doctor tells you and go in with questions. Keep asking questions here - you will get answers. God Bless and best of luck tomorrow.

Jim & Deb,

You may have already heard this but load up on eating while you still can. It will be a bit before he can't taste much, and the chemo may make him not want to eat, but eat what he likes, and lots of it, now.

Other than that: this is a one-day at a time process. I found the best thing to do was to come here often. I was never surprised by what was happening to me in treatment because I had seen it all discussed here beforehand.

Use the search bar on the upper right hand of this page to see posts about almost any subject here and go to the OCF home page for loads of additional information.

So my first day advice; load up on food and information.

Kelly

Jim & Deb. I had rads and chemo together and the best thing to do is try and relax. Getting them done isn't as bad as it seems no matter what you have heard. If you go in happy with good thoughts, it isn't bad at all. To me getting the mask made was the most uncomfortable because the form that goes on your face is rather warm , but not warm enough to burn your skin. I idn't mind getting either but I am a happy go lucky type of guy that likes to make people relaxed and leave them with a smile. Actually, the rads don't take long so you will be fine. Good luck with evverything and keep an upbeat mind. The worst I had was radiation seed implants but they are kind of rare it seems but they say I needed them .

i second everyones advice to eat, eat, eat...and eat more.
his first couple of weeks should be okay. his energy will be zapped quick so he will be resting alot.
im glad u found this forum...welcome! it is a great tool to help yall thru.

keep us updated.

my future FIL is about to end the same kind of treatments you guys are about to start. he slept alot, he falls asleep while we're talking with him. just let him rest, its what he needs.

I remember those days, two years ago this month I started chemo/rads. In ways it doesn't seem so long ago...others a distant memory. I wasn't nervous or anxious in anyway...just knew I had to get it done, it was a step I needed to take to get to the end.

I tried to be active all the way through, the last few weeks all I remember feeling is tired. Take it one step at a time and don't let fear in, you'll get through this. Keep your mind and heart filled with positive music, books, movies etc and keep to hope!

Best Wishes

Eric

Attitude, attitude, attitude. I know it's not easy but remember, Jim, that Deb is your lifeline and Deb, remember that Jim is going to have good and bad days. Neither one of you should take anything personally. You both are suffering but I bet you both are strong and you will get through it together. Keep as positive as you can and this too shall pass!

Best to both of you in fighting the good fight. There are better days on the other side.

ahhh yes. as john said--dont take it personally. this treatment is very hard on the patient. it will be tough on u as well. jim will lash out and since u are there, u will be the target.
i was on here several times in the caregiver forum complaining about the "lashings". unfortunately, its all part of it. but u have to remember that is isnt personal. at some points, i had to repeat that to myself several times a day.

To all of you who replied - Thank you so much for the encouraging words. It's so good to hear good things! You really made my day. Jim did well yesterday, his first day. We were so excited to put that big black X on the calendar! He had 2nd rad today. He takes an Ativan before to help deal with the mask. Tomorrow it's more fluids and anti-nausea medicine through an I.V. then radiation. Thanks again.
Blessings,
Debbie