Thank you for your responses.

My mother and I had a conversation "on the fly" due to her receiving a phone call to schedule her PEG insertion next Thursday.

She asked me what I would do and I told her. What I would do would involve leaving this state (Florida) and seeking treatment elsewhere. Having dealt with this facility, I have no faith in their ability (nor any independents in the area). She can't even see the worth of driving 90 miles.

We have totally different views on how to approach this. I think she simply wants a doctor to tell her what to do and that's it. I simply can't fight with her - if she doesn't trust me to do what I think is best for her, I'm not going to cause more tension. She knows what I went through with my husband. If she didn't learn anything from that, I can't force her to do something she doesn't want to.

Of course, I will be by her side to help her through whatever treatments she decides on but I will not butt heads with the doctors if I think something is not appropriate. I simply do not have that fight in me.

Thanks again.

Cynthia