I agree 199% with vb.....you need to be as informed as possible, and if you are not comfortable with this doctor, get another. I had my mom get a second doctor's opinion (which was uninformed) and then we decided to go with a specialist 127 miles away! We traveled every day, 5 days a week, sometimes twice a day for radiation and chemo. The surgeries were also at the same place, but until the day I die, I will say..IT WAS WORTH IT! Unfortunately, though, like in your case, not all necessary tests were performed initially ( my mom's choice) and by the time she was recovering from the oral cancer, it had metasticized to other areas. Im not saying this to discourage you, I want to ENCOURAGE you....have as many tests done as she needs and keep informed. If the doctor she saw doesn't give you enough info, find someone who will. Also, make sure you keep checking in here, because, even though doctors are great, you will find answers to questions here as well. The wonderful people on the board speak from experience. Good luck! Prayers are with you both!