I think you are correct in wanting the full story beore signing your mother up for a course of treatment. With my own mother all the tests and xrays were done and then the test results and options were discussed with my mother and her children present. I don't blame you for thinking about another facility. There aren't alot of second chances with this kind of cancer if the doctor gets it wrong the first time. As far as pursuing treatment, I found that my mother would pursue anything her family thought she should. She became very dependent on her 4 children during the course of her illness and while she has returned home she still depends on us for help in making any healthcare decisions. Maybe your mother is just looking for reassurance that she will have someone by her side as she goes for all these procedures and the treatments she will eventually have to undergo. Best wishes and hope your luck with the medical establishment improves.