Elin,
I hope you are taking advantage of these few days before your husband's treatment begins to enjoy time together and not be consummed by anxiety. Waiting can be hard so just try to take it day by day. Now would be a good time to line up help for the future. There are several good lists on the forum probably searchable under chores, help, etc. Many people want to "do something" and appreciate being allowed to help.
Malka

SCC stage II Partial mandibulectomy w. neck dissection- July 2005. Renal cancer w. partial nephrectomy-Jan 2004. Breast cancer discovered in routine mammogram. Successful lumpectomy, sentinal nodes clear, RT only-2008 Reconstruction of mandible w fibula free flap-Jan 09. TORS removal of begnin pappiloma from esophagus-2010. Masectomy,rt breast 2013.
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