Hi Elin,
I'm all new to this myself (diagnosed on 11/18 and surgery on 11/20). I have a visit with an oncologist tomorrow... Scarry.
Just curious, why LA and Ontario?
Hang in there; the emotions run wild at the beginning. Try to take things with logic and focus on the facts (not the what if). I know - easier said than done (I'm trying to convince myself of this too).
Take care of yourself, or you won't be able to take care of your husband.