Thanks, Pete. I hadn't known that rule of thumb. We're going to see our original surgeon, a guy who we actually trust who looks you in the eye when he talks to you and doesn't have any bias, on Friday to get his take on this. All of the replies from everyone have been very helpful. When my husband was going through treatment, it was too hard for me to look at this forum. I'm so glad I came back to it. Thanks for helping to talk me down.
Mary