i remember right after my surgery while still in the hospital they were telling me i could eat soft foods. because i was not eating them they increased the menu to include semi soft foods ... so i had MORE foods to say no to LOL ...

my husband was frustrated because i was saying i could not eat anything. he finally got so frantic he called his mom who is a nurse and asked her to come visit to preach at me ... and when she got there i explained i was trying but couldnt. no one seemed to understand it was not that i did not want to but i knew i could not get it down.

my throat was sore, i had this prosthetic in my mouth that i could not maneuver food around and my entire mouth felt like it had been thru a meat grinder.

well later when i got home and looked around, hubby could understand. i had stitches allo over including on my lips which they accidently cut in surgery, on my tongue, and my tonsil had been cut for some reason i still have no idea why when it was my upper right jaw that had surgery ... anyways ,.. i am just now three weeks later able to get more down but it has been sooooo slow ... i was thrilled when i was able to mush up brocolli and cauliflower enough to get it down ... wow! something that was not sweet!!!! i was in heaven (not a sweets person so pudding has been boring for me). i was able to get mac and cheese down today so one more step ahead .... but anyways i said all that to say this ... it hurt my feelings when hubby was after me to eat when i was telling him i couldnt. i am all for encouraging people to do what they can but pushing them when they say they cannot does nothing but hurt and cause you to feel like quitting. i like to know people hear what i tell them, understand and believe me. if i feel they are teaming up against me, i just give up. people generally want to get better and willo take steps at their own pace to recover ... but each one does it at a different pace.

i wish you and hubby the very best. i am sure he will have you cheering him on soon once he gets to that point where he sees he can do it.