Karen- Having someone sit with him is a great idea. My husband was in the same situation with the trach. He hated every minute of it but when I ask him now, almost 1 year later, he doesn't remember it. I brought him a clipbaord and some paper but most of the time he was so doped up he wasn't legible. He thought he'd been in an accident and that's why there were so many bells and alarms going off. Just when we thought he was getting better, 2 days before going home, he pulled out his ng tube(it was stiched in,ouch). He also tried to get up and wander away so they had to restrain him. Needless to say, he has a bad reaction to sedation. It almost has the opposite effect. Just be sure to keep your eyes on him when you are there.

You'll be amazed at how well he'll heal after such a traumatic operation. My husband looked great just a few days after the surgery. People couldn't believe the extent of what was done. You'll feel better also when the pain subside for him. I know how you must feel seeing him so helpless but I'm sure he is in the best hands at Sloan. I can't say enough about the staff there.

Sue