Cray, keep the Faith - we are here for you. I was primary caregiver to my Mom who had pancreatic cancer and I hope I can give you some advice that helped me. Be specific when asking friends and family for help and realize that different people have different capabilities. Don't expect things from people who are incapable of doing them, instead, find out what they can do. Maybe your very organized friend (the one who suggested you print out a health history) could help with the household bills, or maybe she could keep and distribute that health history. Please do talk with someone - this forum will help - but a real hug helps too. As others have suggested try your place or worship (even if you are not active,) or the Cancer Society or other local volunteer agency - even a home health aid a few hours a week. Take care of yourself or you will be unable to take care of your husband. Good Luck, we'll be thinking of you. Tina