Donna,
this might be naive but are the portions of the tongue that are affected where they had the radioactive wires/seeds for brachytherapy? What does the RO/MO say about this.
Would your mother consider counseling ? That might give you some air.

M




Partial glossectomy (25%) anterior tongue. 4/6/07/. IMRT start @5/24/07 (3x) Erbitux start/end@ 5/24/07. IMRT wider field (30x) start 6/5/07. Weekly cisplatin (2x30mg/m2), then weekly carbo- (5x180mg/m2). End of Tx 19 July 07.