Since your friend has younger children, it probably would help her to offer to take them out to lunch or to the park. That way she could get some rest.

Maybe make dinner for her family once in a while so she didnt have to worry about feeding her kids a good meal. Or even just helping with school clothes shopping. She may have lots of support, but a little extra help with the kids is always a big help.

A big thing is just dont go away. Stay visible and make calls at least weekly so she knows you are there. Even with a strong support group in place, some of those people wont be there thru the whole thing.

Christine