Oh Cindy - I have no help to offer because we haven't been faced with that yet. I am thinking of you and sending big cyber (((hugs))). I'm interested to see how the more experienced respond.

I think ultimately though - if he understands the choices/options - it is his decision.

Michelle, CG to husband (45), DX 2/08 Stage IVa Adenocarcinoma Salivary Gland (T2N2bMO)
Parotidectomy & ND 2/08, Tumor margins not clear, 4 of 30 nodes positve for cancer,
TX IMRT 39x, cisplatin 7x (completed 5/1/08),
PEG (4/22 - 7/9), No port. Currently in remission!