Cindy- I'm so sorry for you both. If there are no signs of cancer, that doesn't mean it isn't there lurking. My husband had metastasis that showed it's horrible self only a few months after his last good scan. The Erbitux will possibly have some painful side effects. My husband had cracking skin and pain in his feet and it did not slow his metastasis at all. In fact, it got worse. However, he says he would not have changed anything because at least the doctors tried. Maybe your husband could benefit from some therapy. I hate to think of him giving up but I know how good it feels to not be going thru chemo. Keep us posted.
Sue

cg to husband, 48 Stage 1V head and neck SCC. First surgery 9/07. Radiation and several rounds of chemo followed. Mets to chest and lungs. "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain." Went home to God on February 22, 2009.