Ok - I'll try to make this concise because I know I have a tendancy to go long. Dan is over-weight by about 50+ pounds. He has been struggling for a while to improve that number and we had started eating more healthy and he has started exercising. Since the cancer dx and surgeries that has pretty much gone out the window and he took to heart the "bulking up" advice and ate like a fiend. He has been pretty fatigued, but the exercise has continued - just not as intense. This Tuesday as I told you guys in another thread - he lost 5 pounds at his weekly check-up. I know this is because eating is now a chore and he is only eating because he knows he has too so no more extra portions, snacks, etc. And of course because his body is now working so hard. Today I tried to convince him to try one of the Boost Plus or Ensure Plus drinks I have in the fridge. I asked him to use them to supplement his diet with extra calories betweeen meals. He said no. I said why and he said because I want to lose weight. He doesn't think the 5 pounds is a big deal at all and is not worried. I know my husband and took the approach that typically works best with him. Calm - so I went through the whole spiel - reminded of all the doctors have said, what I have read, what you guys have said, etc. the gist of it being this is going to get worse still and you don't need to be flippant about the weight and this is NOT the time to be concerned about a diet - right now we need to be concerned about cancer butt kicking. I also told him that his symptoms will get worse and his hearing could take longer if he doesn't take in enough calories for energy.

The help I need from you guys is reference info or links or actual legitmate data / studies that talk about this and show that what he is doing is detrimental to his health. The antedoctal convversations don't seem to be working. I've searched around for several hours, but I am struggling. I think I just can't get the right keyword combination because everything I try just brings up all the stuff about what you need to do, not what happens when you lose weight.

I love him, but this is when I want to beat the hell out of him!! blush

Thanks in advance for the help.

Michelle, CG to husband (45), DX 2/08 Stage IVa Adenocarcinoma Salivary Gland (T2N2bMO)
Parotidectomy & ND 2/08, Tumor margins not clear, 4 of 30 nodes positve for cancer,
TX IMRT 39x, cisplatin 7x (completed 5/1/08),
PEG (4/22 - 7/9), No port. Currently in remission!