Suemarie
i wish i had an answer for you.I don't know how you cope but it seems you just do
The hospice staff and Robs palliative home care team said i went into nurse mode.I certainly know when i was dealing with everything i certainly felt as if i was doing a job.I almost think my mind detached from my husband on occasions and i did things i was trained to do 30 years ago automatically.

From somewhere you get an inner strength that lasts for about two thirds of the day,and the other third you just disintegrate,wipe your eyes take a deep breath and then start a new day.Take comfort where you can,use the site to yell and cry and kick and scream,but never let him see how much it is hurting you.
The knowledge that he may not beat this thing will be in his mind all the time,and he will worry about you and practical things and that will detract from his ability to fight .

Just remember this sweetie.Make every moment count,lung mets aren't a death sentence they are a new even harder battle to win and if he comes out fighting and surviving we will all be cheering on your side.If things don't go so well ,build your memories and walk by his side.
I don't know what else to say really

my thoughts are with you

love liz