Heidi, After 3 months in hospital after hip surgery that did not heal well, my [84 yr old] Mom told me "enough was enough" one afternoon when I came to see her. She was gone the next morning. I knew she wanted to go- she had no fear of death and she hated the indigities of her life in the hospital. She was at last at peace-we were the wrecks. Tell her you love her and hold her hand and make sure she isn't in pain. Amy