Have you tried the site Cancerbackup?
It has an excellent section on 'Dying with Cancer' which I found extremely comforting to read.
I've often wondered if a separate section for people living with/caring for someone with a terminal condition.
It crosses all the other categories yet there's a different element to the concept of fighting when you know life is NOT going to go on--we haven't kicked cancer's butt.
My fight at the moment is to try and keep the people around me cheerful, keep my practcal affairs in order and making sure all my loved ones know how much I love them and have appreciated all their support and care--BEFORE I even had cancer.
I try to fight that feeling/knowledge that I brought it on myself and didn't deserve to win the battle/war or however each individual sees their illness.
I hate the words, in the obituaries which say 'lost the battle after a fight bravely borne'. Huh, these dead people losers then?
No wonder caregivers go through the 'guilt trip'--'Okay, yes, my mum/dad/partner etc. just gave in' or 'If only he/she had done what I said'
I guess it's like everything else in life--it's different for everyone.
As far as the practicalities/emotions are concerned, Liz and Amy have given me so much valuable information, their experience with Hospice Services both in, and out of, care that I feel more confident and comforted because of their phone calls/journals.
Wally's wife has also just documented, bravely, her experience at the end of Wally's life.

I hope you can find knowledge, peace and comfort on here and work out what is best for YOUR family. Have you in my thoughts, let us know how things progress--and you can email me any time you want,

Brenda x