Hi there

when Rob was in the hospice,he wasn't forced to take any nutrition unless he wanted too.The thinking was that there was no point in forcing him because it wouldn't make any difference.

On the day he started the sedation medication they stopped his nutrition because they said it would hinder the effect of the medication.

I think the rule of thumb would be that until someone actually tells you to stop you must continue to feed her as much as she can tolerate although the amount isn't that important now,if she doesn't want it don't force her but yes it would be the same as starving her.

Basic nutrition is not keeping her alive by artificial means,and
no it is not feeding the cancer.

This is a very delicate area but my advice would be to let the medical staff make these decisions and follow their instructions to the letter.Becoming proactive when you are so emotionally involved can only lead to more problems than you need right now.
I know how hard it is but you can do it,and you will find it easier to live with when it is all over