I am so sorry to here of this turn in things. The reality is that some of the posters who come to the boards will not make it as time goes by. There is never any reason to think that if you are suffering due to a loss, or the potential of one, that anyone here would want you to hold back. It is part of the hard reality of this disease and as part of the OCF family, we are here to support you in the good times and in the terribly bad ones as well. There is a reality associated with ;the loss of a loved one, a reality that from this disease or from another cause, we must all face eventually. It should be as openly discussed as any other aspect of our lives as patients or caregivers, and support for those in emotional or physical pain given. In the end we will all share a similar fate. It is not morbid. It is the reality, and the natural course of our fragile existence in this life. Death is the debt we all owe nature.

Brian, stage 4 oral cancer survivor. OCF Founder and Director. The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant.