Hi All,

I don't know quite how to ask this question, as I don't want to upset anyone.. or run the risk of being "flamed". So in advance I am sorry if I offended anyone.

My husband has been fighting a hard fight since 2005, unfortunatly his toleration of chemo was REALLY bad and treatment was cut short a few times even on reduced doses. In october the Drs told us it is terminal, 12 months they said.... In the mean time Rich has wasted away to nothing, just skin and bones, keeping food down is a major task and facing reality now I know that the SCC is winning the fight. Last week another tumor on the other side of his neck (good side) was diagnosed and his mental state is suffering alot.He also sleeps about 18 hours a day.
My questions are, How do I prepare for losing my husband? Are there any tell tale signs to look out for in the days/weeks/months before the end? Please don't think I am morbid, my husband is the love of my life, but I think the time has come to prepare for what lies ahead.

C/G to Husband Richard SCC Op 4/1/2005 T2N0M0,Neck disection, 35% of tongue removed.
Reoccurance 3/2007,Lymph Node same side Positive SCC, Swelled to 2.5 inches. IMRT X35 Cis X3 Completed 33 IMRT Cis x2 carbo X1 MET to lungs post treatment 10/04/2007
Passed peacefully 31st July 2008.