Ellen-
I am sorry that you and your husband are having to go through such a rough time. I don't know why some seem to get so much sicker than others from treatment. Your husband's treatment sounds very similar to my Moms last summer. She got so sick she could not even finish it. Her symptoms lasted alot longer than anyone ever expected as well. She also had fevers on and off for a few months after the tx. Just hang in there....it will get better. I felt like my Moms side effects would never go away, but eventually she started feeling better. She is still not 100% (10 months later) but she is back to work and living pretty closely to her old life. She also experienced a similar let down with her lifetime dream trip. Her husband bought her a trip/cruise to Hawaii for her 60th birthday and they were suppose to go in Oct. Based on what the doctors told her she should have been well enough for it by that point but she was still a train wreck. She did make the trip late in January. She was not 100% but she went anyways. By re-booking it for a few months later it gave her something to strive for. I think it helped. Hang in there and keep doing the great job that is sounds like you are doing supporting your husband. I hope that better days are coming your way soon!
Tami