thank you all for your encouragement. I am so glad I found you all. I will keep you posted on how she is doing after surgery on Monday. I spoke a lot with sinead last night and she said that her prayer is that when they open her and pathologist looks at glands that they will not be cancerous and that they will close her up. She would be so happy with that. Mark, your right, I should change my login name. My name is Norma. NOB is my initials. Rosie, thank you for your words of encouragement. It can't be easy for you and you are so good to reply to my fears. I have to say that after reading all your replies I am feeling a little more positive today.
Norma