Hi, NOB

The procedure your describing is not as bad as you might be thinking. Many of us have had the Radical Neck Dissection or a Modified Radical neck dissection (which is what you have described). The method her doctors are using is exactly what I went through and is the right thing. Given her cancer history they are being very thorough and not wasting time by doing a needle biopsy first. Please try to comfort her by telling her about us, we have been through this and are just fine. The procedure sounds frightening but she can expect a recovery that is relatively free of pain and cosmetically less a problem than it may seem. You didn't mention what type of cancer she had before, she may be a candidate for radiation after her surgery.

This undoubtedly is a very tough time for her and your family. If you need anything feel free to ask, we are willing to help.

She should NOT be thinking she would rather be dead. Keep thinking good things, there can be lots of life ahead for her!

Mark, 21 Year survivor, SCC right tonsil, 3 nodes positive, one with extra-capsular spread. I never asked what stage (would have scared me anyway) Right side tonsillectomy, radical neck dissection right side, maximum radiation to both sides, no chemo, no PEG, age 40 when diagnosed.