Dear DEJ,- bottom line- you have summed up what caregiving is all about - It's about loving:)One thing John and I did was to draw funny pictures for each other and leave little messages on each page of his daily chart [which was also his journal of daily events] Only problem is that he drew alot of "nurse from Hell"[me] cartoons -nurse with peg food, nurse with meds, nurse with liquids, nurse with blood pressure machine and thermometer, nurse with scales, etc.rolleyes: But that journal cronicles almost 2 years of our battling this disease together. Thank you for your caring post. Amy in the Ozarks :