Hi Michelle,

The first time I lost it in front of Jack I felt terrible but he was actually waiting for me to let go of the superwoman act. Caregivers and patients need to comfort each other - we're all going through this cancer and together is better than apart.

Medication to help with anxiety and inability to sleep is a great idea and an act of sanity. Do what you need to get through this and don't be afraid to share emotions with your husband. I'm sure he's relieved to get a chance to talk about it too.

Hang in there, it will get better.
Regards JoAnne


JoAnne - Caregiver to husband, cancer rt. tonsil, mets to soft palate, BOT, 7 lymph nodes - T3N2BM0, stage 4. Robotic assisted surgery, radical neck dissection 2/06; 30 IMTX treatments and 4 cycles of cisplatin completed June 06.