Amy, that is good news you got about your dad, that chemo/rad killed the cancer. I remember how good I felt when the news came back after my neck dissection that the biopsy on all of the nodes and tissue was negative, that all of the cancer cells had been killed by the chemo/rad.

If your dad is having problems with the morphine, perhaps another painkiller could be employed, such as oxycontin or some other med. One of the doctors can help if they know he is having problems.

As to your dad starting smoking again, that is just not a good thing. That will increase his chances of a recurrance by a huge degree. You can't make him stop, but pointing out the folly of smoking because your mom and you do may help. My wife and son still smoke and I haven't started again after 39 years of smoking. If I can do it, so can he.

Instead of angry, your dad should look on the bright side. He can get up each day and feel a desire for a cigarette. That's better than the alternative. There are many benefits to his being around for you and mom, if reminding him isn't the answer, perhaps some professional help for depression is in order. This disease can upset the future for the patient, so sometimes a little medical help is needed. Hope all goes well with you and family. Please keep us posted.