Cheryl,
I had tears in my eyes after reading your post. I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you and your family. I really wish I could make things better for you. You are going through a lot, it's so difficult and I'm so sorry. You are obviously an incredible person. KirkGeorgia said it beautifully -- Dave is your medal for the fine job you're doing.
Best regards,
D


Mom's caregvr. DDS failed to dx 01/03. Dx Stg IV SCC 05/03. Induct. chemo, IMRT, 5FU, H, Iressa, Neck disect, radiation. Dad's caregvr. Dx 01/04 Ext. Stg SCLC. Mets to liver/bone 08/04. Died 11/12/04. Mom tongue CA dx 06/13, hemiglossectomy (80% removed) 08/13. Clean margins and nodes, but PNI. 6/15/15: Tongue CA at base of remnant tongue. Declined further tx; hospice.
Died 10/13/15. What a long and difficult journey.