I dont know how to start here. I have been a quiet member for about two years. I dont write much, really not good at it. I read these forums every single day. They have been very helpful to my family. I am really at the end of my rope, I dont know if I am strong enough to take any more. I feel bad feeling like this, I am not the one with the cancer it is my husband. He needs to go for a biopsy on Friday, after 20 months from end of last treatment.
Our Story...On Xmas Eve 2002 my husband was told there was a pretty good chance he had tongue


cancer. On the 9th of January he had a biopsy, and yes it was positive. On Febuary 3, 2003 he had a partial glossectomy, radical neck and a peck flap. 14 hour surgery, results were T3N1M0. After six weeks he had 30 radiation treatments to both side of neck. All this ended at the end of April.
Everything was going ok but he was having troble with his jaw hurting. Come to find out where they broke (cut) the jaw to do the surgery wasnt healing. They tried many thing to try to get the jaw to repair itself. He kept getting infections and in pain. In June of 2004 they did a surgery where they took a bone an a artrery from his leg to repair the jaw. Well he had a MAJOR stroke during surgery. He never had high blood pressure or anything. They think something broke off during surgery. Who knows, they said sometimes it just happens. He ended up spending almost 2 months in the hospital to recieve therapy. He had this surgery at UofM so thats where he stayed for the entire 2 months. He was paralyzed on his left side. He can now walk (with a bad limp) but his arm works very little, and his hand has no movement.
Now end of December 2004 he had a PET scan. It showed activity on the left neck 2 small spots. (cancer was on right before) Four weeks later had an MRI. It show the same area with one spot 1.5cmx.05 and second (real close to the other)is 1.3cmX.03. This is why he is having a biopsy on Friday.
I dont mean to complain, but I dont think I can take any more. We are in business for ourselves and I have been holding everything together. We have two kids who are away at collage. They should be having the times of their lives and they just want to come home to be with their Dad. Dont get me wrong I am thankful we are in our own business because Dave would have been fired by now after two years of this crap.
I know if he has a reoccurrance the odds of him getting better are not that great. I do not understand why he must take so much. He is a great person, would always help others, just an all around nice guy. I guess I am just mad at the world and at CANCER. I dont even know why I wrote this, guess I just need to get it off my chest. Sorry if there are any spelling mistakes but it took me two hours to type this, dont feel like checking it all. I am a really bad typer.
Thanks,
Cheryl