Thank you both for your reply.All the information I've gathered here has been so helpful.It has allevated some of the dread and fear that we both feel.I had my father in law in front of this computer for hours today showing him old posts.I think he walked away feeling much better.He really didn't relize that there were so many people going through the same thing he is.I guess you always think you're the only one until someone shows you the way.I will include you all in my prayers this evening.

Brian,
Joe wanted me tell you how much he respects you and what you've done for all of us.He doesn't ever "surf the net",he was truly amazed at this web site.Just by reading alot of the archived posts it made him feel a little more at ease.He just feel asleep for the first time tonight with no help from meds.I wasn't able to come up with the right words to ease him before his surgery Friday,but all of you did it for me.Thank you so much.

Patty