Hi, jack, very well said........But, I`s like to address number 4........Don`t forget to take care of yourself........Big Problem, I don`t. I`ve had therapist say I talk like I`m only taking care of one person, not 2, meaning me.My world revolves around taking care of Packer, period.......I`ve managed over the past two years to develope a lovely case of anorexia nervosa, I realize this is because it`s one of the things I can control. We live a good distance from both our families, so I`m it. Since I`m a nurse, I`ve done all the nursing care, which is fine, because I don`t trust anyone else to do it. My idea of taking care of myself is taking a multivitamin.So, if anyone has any suggestions, let me know.......I`ve already done the obsessive compulsive shopping, after i realized that clothes actually come in a size 0. I just simply can`t think of taking care of myself........Dee