This post originally put up by DQKCK
Contributing Member (25+ posts)
Member # 552 , and moved to a new topic thread by Brian HIll

Just a little update on my husband. He had an MRI last week and the results showed the Chemo and radiation did there job. He had Stage 3 or 4 bbase of tongue cancer with 3 lymph nodes involved. He was very stubborn about the peg tube and fought to gain wgt . He lives on Xylocaine viscous and gained 10 pounds on lots of Ensure Plus using the gel each time he swollowed. His stubborn ness worked because all he thought was " noone was going to put a hole in his stomach" No matter how I explained he still thought this. What I'm curious about is unlike other postings here he didn't get any great thrill from the positive results.Does it come latter for some or do some always worry about what may come latter.
He has never read any info choses to stay as unknowlegable as he can . Asks no questions of the Dr . Just feels that cancer cells will hide and come out when they feel like it. He no longer takes any anti depressants refuses along with any other pills.So I quess a lifetime of the glass always being half empty stayed . I have not enlightened him on recurrence statistics . I do give him a lot of credit for managing in general all of this and do not interfer with his choices.
I just wanted to post this so any other caregivers would know sometimes people don't always see the good side after this experience.I hope to stay a part of this Forum while we are on this repreave . So if I can help anyone with what I have learned from this journey I will. I want to thank all of you for the support you have given me. You have been the only ones I could "talk " to thru this. Kinda sad to say that but welcome to our cyber world and thank God for all of you.. Best to all of you
Diane

Brian, stage 4 oral cancer survivor. OCF Founder and Director. The first responsibility of a leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant.