Hello! Update on my Dad. His surgery ended 21 hours later at 5:in the morning. I have never felt so helpless. He looked awful - he has had his total chin area replaced with a flap from his back. We are not out of the woods and pray the flap survives. I was prepared to see him and knew what to expect thanks to all of you. I would have totally lost it if I had not been to this forum. I did have so much trouble today because he was awake and trying to communicate and I had to go in the hall and cry. I felt so bad for him and lost for me. I SHOULD BE ABLE TO DO THIS . . but it is not all about me. I know it will get easier everyday for him . . .but I feel like a need a big long cry . . .maybe I am not the type of person who can really deal with this part of it and I feel so so so so awful . . .

Laura