I understand both why you are upset and that it is intimidating to say, essentially, "things seem to be such a mess here that I'm losing faith in what you are doing". But good grief--what a mess in terms of what the tech said and then teh RO "having the wrong chart" and then an additional CT and adjustments to the radiation plan. I mean, maybe these are all unrelated things and don't add up to a major screw up but I think you need to probe a little.
I guess what I would want a really clear explanation about is why the RO is "mapping out a new plan" in the *middle* of treatment. Were you told this might ahppen? And I'd be very direct in asking if this is related to teh techs confusion about thinking your husband was done with treatments or that the RO was looking at the wrong folder earlier. Try to ask in a calm, not accusatory or upset voice. I think you deserve some clear answers. Also, I would be sure you ask the RO directly, not the techs or nurses who may feel put on the spot more.
Good luck michele, come back and let us know how it goes. It does sound distressing.
Nelie