Dee,
I'm not sure if I'm overstepping here but A friend of mine sent this to me and I think it is particularly comforting. I thought of both of youa nd wanted to share it:

If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.

Happy moments, praise God.
Difficult moments, seek God.
Quiet moments, worship God.
Painful moments, trust God.
Every moment, thank God.

My prayers are with you both.
Amy