Hi, I have looked at this post several times and did not know what to say.I am disfigured, when this started my Doctors were worried about how I would take this because I was a real good looking woman (their words not mine), and could I deal with this? What a piece of "fluff" they must have thought I was. I have grown stronger with this than I ever thought I could be, I appreciate my family more. It has not been easy. I am more proud of myself than I ever was before. I have had 6 operations, big and small. On Monday I go in for the 7th. and 3 weeks later for the 8th. a big operation.Most of this is to put me back together again. There is plastic surgery for any tempory disfigurement you Father may have.Once you start this race you can only work your way to the finish line.I will say this, your father has just went through treatment to get rid of his cancer to find out its not all gone is probably a very depressing thing for him. He may look at this differently after he talks to his Doctor and sees whats really up. Give him some time. I am not afraid to die, it is just part of the circle of life. I am just not ready yet. I do believe every person has to make their own decision about a life threatening illness.If your Father makes this choice , it is his choice, it is his life.I wish you the best with all of this.gnelson