Sounds like your dad is also terrified of disfigurement which may or may not be the case depending on what options are presented to you. Keep us posted and we might be able to match your dad up with someone on the board who has a case like his.Many board members are willing to speak by phone if the message board doesn't work for your dad. Often speaking directly with someone who has had similar surgery helps.

Meanwhile, hug your kids tight-they will give you strength as you go forward.

Kim