Oh gosh you are so right about it being tougher when it is someone you love, and people just assuming you know what is going on. I am now reluctant to tell doctors and others that I am a nurse. I worked for 18 years in a nursing home. The only cancer I have dealt with was in the final stages. Also Rich responds so differntly when another nurse tells him something than when I tell him the same thing. With me I'm just his wife telling him and when another nurse tells him then he listens