Hilo, I'll give a little more from the patients point of view. My wife says to me the exact things you posted. I opted to have my treatment 75 miles from home at a cancer center. I stay with a relative there and come home on weekends. My wife was already involved in the nursing program in college and we have a 19 month old baby boy so I really wanted her to be able to focus on those two things. She really has a plate full. I miss them but find comfort knowing that she is still moving toward her degree. I have the easy part and I feel guilty about that very often. For the most part, during the week I don't really feel up to much so being able to just rest is actually good. She really has trouble not being able to help me all the time but I think it would be much harder on me if she could. I love her very much but so far alot of the days I just want to be left alone. I don't know if this helps but caregivers give so much I always hate to see them doubting their efforts. I'll pray for you and your husband.