Amk,
I, too, (believe it or not) even AFTER SURGERY still have had a few smokes in the past weeks! I would tell myself that it's just to 'calm' me and 'it's only 1....or 2....sometimes 3'. Nicotene is insidious and devastating! I feel CERTAIN that my relapse was a DIRECTLY caused by my continued (lite)? smoking. I had TONS of excuses and justifications.....FORGET IT!!!!

I've recently been to an herbalist who mixed me up a nasty-tasting concoction that really seems to HELP with the urge to smoke. She mentioned something to me that makes complete sense....form a triple-pronged approach to defeat the problem. Choose 3 completely different methods and USE THEM FULLY. Wellbutrin, the herbal concoction, and hyptnosism seems to be doing the trick for me for the past 9 days. If this can help someone like me who STILL after 2 surgeries was smoking to really stop, then there really IS hope!
The main thing is, there must be an INTERNAL motivation- he must WANT to quit. Unfortunmately you are very limited in this area, as the "contrary beast" within us smokers will just WANT exactly what others DON'T WANT us to do.

Best of luck. Just use constant, gentle pressure and he'll eventually get the message. If you like-if he's more the type that responds to visual grossness-I can send you some pictures of my "new face" that's GUARANTEED to make ANY smoker give it a momentary pause.
Thank you for your support in answering my earlier post, and we REALLY ARE HERE FOR YOU ALSO! I was very touched that you are still here helping others when your sister just died earlier this year. God bless you in your efforts.....
Gordon