Hello Doreen,

Lee is way to close to end of treatment to be feeling very good. He is grieving for his old life and wondering how to handle his new life.
I can't imagine being a caregiver, as the patiant I know how I feel and what I can and cannot do. The caregiver has to usually figure it out on her or his own.
Please get Lee on the board, Things will get better as time goes by. Many members have been through what both of you are going thru now. We made it and I know you and Lee can to.

I also didn't want to be around anyone for a few months. Time to heal and get my head on straight. Didn't want or have any visitors at the hospital during the 17 hour surgery and afterwords in the hospital. Wife and kids only.
Some golfing buddies showed up about 4 days after surgery, It made me feel uncomfortable feeling so shitty, not being able to talk, hair not washed, teeth not brushed very good, drugged up for pain, etc.
I know they meant well but thank god once they saw how I looked and felt they didn't stay long.

All my Best, Danny Boy