Kimberly,

Unfortunately, nobody can answer the questions you are asking except Lisa. If her husband does not even follow up with doctors when he is supposed to and insists on continuing with dumb behavior, is there really a threat that will coerce him into submission? There are underlying reasons why she stays in her relationship and still believes she can rescue him when he needs it. None of us are able to tell her what she needs to do with her life and most if not all of us would not tell her husband everything will work out fine even if he continues to chew and postpones all of his doctor visits. If "being there for him" means sitting back and watching him deteriorate until he dies from this disease and forcing their children to sit back and watch it...I guess she knows the answer without any of us telling her.

Best wishes for your friend Lisa and especially for the children. Strangely, though, many of our children have to see us suffer from this disease anyway.

Ed

SCC Stage IV, BOT, T2N2bM0
Cisplatin/5FU x 3, 40 days radiation
Diagnosis 07/21/03 tx completed 10/08/03
Post Radiation Lower Motor Neuron Syndrome 3/08.
Cervical Spinal Stenosis 01/11
Cervical Myelitis 09/12
Thoracic Paraplegia 10/12
Dysautonomia 11/12
Hospice care 09/12-01/13.
COPD 01/14
Intermittent CHF 6/15
Feeding tube NPO 03/16
VFI 12/2016
ORN 12/2017
Cardiac Event 06/2018
Bilateral VFI 01/2021
Thoracotomy Bilobectomy 01/2022
Bilateral VFI 05/2022
Total Laryngectomy 01/2023