HI, you may or not remembr me. I was here earier in the year getting info tohelp my friend, whose Husband was DXed with oral cancer. he ws stage 1, Neck Nodes were fine, parial tongue removal, margins clear, etc.... basically told all cancer was removed. He still has his 1st check up, he canceled the appointment, no real reason. Lisa (my friend) was upset about that. I guess hehas beendepresed, but there isn't much you cando when the person refuses to admit it and deied it. Anyway, they went on a 6 hour road trip, a family getaway for the weekend. Her husband bught chewing tobacco and started chewing and spitting right there in the van onthe drive, with the kids in back. Lisa was in shock at first, then cried and cried, then yelled,then cried, etc...... Her DH said "It's justfor today,it's a long drive". Lisa knows it may start as 'just this once' but it will end up being a habit again. She is devisated, scared, mad, frustrated, says part of her feels like she doesn't even love him anymore now that he has started up again. Part of her wants to forgive him and let him chew and just hope he stops. Part of her wants a divorce.... I suggested she come back here to get some support andhelp, she again,isn't able to do anything. So I am here on her behalf. Is this someting her Dh just needs to work thrugh? Should besupportive and be there for him? Should she be tough and move out till he stops? Is there anything you can suggest I tell her?
THANKS

Kimberly