Danielle, it`s really beyond me too, several years back I read a book by I believe Rabbi Kushner,"Why bad Thing Happen To Good People" I don`t know, maybe we have the strength to deal with it. I have friends with a retarded child, and I think if we look at everything in perspective, we don`t get anything we can`t handle...at least, that`s what I keep telling myself. I believe maybe we are blessed, when we are given the gift of caring for others....Hugs, Dee