Rick, I can't offer "advise" beyond the above suggestions. I will say that even if it is the worst, you will still have options. I can feel your anxiety and in fact it drags up some old feelings in myself.

Just remember; one day at a time.

Mark, 21 Year survivor, SCC right tonsil, 3 nodes positive, one with extra-capsular spread. I never asked what stage (would have scared me anyway) Right side tonsillectomy, radical neck dissection right side, maximum radiation to both sides, no chemo, no PEG, age 40 when diagnosed.