Dino,
soft is good - tumors are usually denser than normal tissue so they palpate fairly easily. Please understand that many of us here had late Dx's and that's why we are conservative with our advice. I mistook a a salivary gland for a tumor once. It's easy to do when you get the cancer fear thing going and start checking your mouth with a torch (flashlight) every day and start discovering normal parts of your anatomy that were there all along but you never noticed before. The ENT was your best shot for an accurate Dx. I take it that you found one with cancer experience? If so then I would relax a little.