Lisa,
I too am a non-smoking, light drinking female, diagnosed at age 41 with stage I tongue cancer. I had a partial glossectomy, about 25% of my tongue removed, and a modified neck dissection. They took out 48 lymph nodes and all were cancer free so I did not require more treatment. This cancer spreads through the lymph nodes so you make want to investigate an elective modified neck dissection. I had to do a lot of talking and a little crying, but my surgeon agreed to do it. It has given me piece of mind to know that I have minimized the chance that I'll have a metastisis.
E-mail me with any question you have.
Barb